Marriage Saving Mediation (sometimes known as marital mediation)is a growing area of family mediation designed to help couples stay married; under this general umbrella a variety of approaches are rapidly evolving.
As mediators we provide an environment where people can talk without the pathological feelings that unfairly accompanies couples counseling. Many clients have told us at some point, “If we had just known how to talk like this before, we wouldn’t be getting a divorce.”
Marital Mediation is useful for some couples who want to stay married, or if not married, to stay living together. The process begins by helping couples identify their common commitment to their union and then responds in a flexible manner, depending on their issues and the approach of the mediator.
DRS uses mediation techniques to open and improve lines of communication, helps couples address areas of friction in their relationship, and develop “guidelines” that focus on the behavioral changes each person will make in order to lessen future conflict.
The decision about whether to have a written agreement as the end result of this type of mediation is generally client-driven, with guidance by the mediator.
When meeting with a couple where one party says that they want to get divorced and the other says that they want to work on the relationship, one of us often asks the “non-initiator”: “Is there anything that you can say to him/her that might get them to change their mind about working on a divorce right now?”
The initiator may in fact be willing to give the marriage another chance.
What our clients say
Samples of the many positive results we’ve contributed to
...The thing that pleased me about Mike is that his motivation was about my son’s well-being, he was not just a “case” to him... Annette H., Goddard, KS
...Within a few weeks after contacting DRS we received another statement from the hospital, but this time the balance due after insurance was $0.00! We really appreciated the help. Jamie D., Wichita, KS
...This resulted in an uncontested divorce and eliminated all of the fighting in court so many people I know have experienced, and minimized the need for lawyers. Cara W., Andover, KS
...Ultimately, negotiated agreements resulted in him owing only $1,500.00 and several hours of community service. Needless to say, we are grateful for his efforts. Brian M., Derby, KS
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